We know churches and the Christian market are dominated by women. In turn, this leads to the idea that women must be more spiritual. I believe this is a dangerous misconception. Dangerous in that it is a subtle and manipulative technique used by women to feel more important or righteous than men. It gives them a feeling of power and a sort of bargaining chip to cause division in the home and relationships. On various blogs and comments, I have seen women waive their 'deeper' spirituality in men's faces, because, don't you know, women are more emotional, more intuitive, etc. Therefore, they are more in tune with God and must have the upper hand on spiritual matters. Case in point is the following Anonymous comment from my last post:
"Women buy all kinds of books dealing with relationships, because women care deeply about relationships. In fact one could say that women are about relationships. Christianity is about relationships. It is about our relationship with God and our fellow human beings. Remember the two great commandments. Women are drawn to Christianity. Two-thirds of those who attend church today are women. Women go to church more than men. Women pray more than men. It should come as no surprise then that more women buy Christian books than men."By this, it implied that men must not care deeply about relationships and that men are not about relationships. Typical feminist thought. Men too, of course, are drawn to Christianity! They may just not show their faith in the way women do, by devouring Christian books, Christian music, plastering crosses everywhere, getting involved in every church activity, etc. Women like to show off all their pretty Christian things and create Christian appearances, whether they truly are or not (not for me to decide). Men seem to like their Faith straight-up, just a Bible, please, without all the bells and whistles. Their faith is more private, whereas a woman's is more public. Does this make men less spiritual? Of course not. In fact, the irony may be that "less is more". That is, if one wants to play the "more" game.
The great thing about the Bible and churches (before they became marketed businesses) is that they are sex neutral. God did not market to just men or women.
Suggesting that women pray more than men is crazy. Only God knows a person's heart. Prayer is a highly personal and intimate matter that is only between that person and God. Frankly, I don't care who is praying more or even if they are praying, because again, it is a personal matter. Each should be primarily concerned about the state of their own soul, then they can be concerend for those around them. It is kind of like the oxygen mask that drops down from an airplane. The flight attendant spiel is something like,"please place the mask on yourself first before helping others". The idea being you can't be of much a help to others if you first don't tend to your body and instead pass out from lack of oxygen. Same thing for Christianity; you can't be much help to others, if you first don't tend to your own soul.
By the way, I can just picture a wife nagging her husband to pray more! The nerve. I'm sure it happens.
I am not surprised that women buy more Christian books, especially when such books are marketed toward them and not specifically to men. Just as I am not surprised why kids want "happy meals" or certain candies that are marketed towards kids. Most churches these days are big on marketing and rather see themselves as businesses. They market toward women, because they know women still hold the purse strings. If you can get the woman into church, you will get the family money and the children for their preschool. It is just as likely that if the churches marketed toward men, they would get the same result eventually,but men take longer to come around, which is a GOOD thing. They don't rush into things by being wooed by some flashy sermon or church building. So, if you want instant church attenders and givers, focus on the women."In today's Christian churches, women do the bulk of the work. They are the backbone of many churches. If it were not for women's presence and involvement, the doors of many churches would have to close. Yet there are people here at your blog who harshly criticize these devoted Christian women for their involvement claiming it turns the church into something feminine and drives men away. With all those women flitting around doing this and that in the service of the spiritual community, the church becomes too "pink" for certain men. But in the Bible the church is referred to as the "bride of Christ." Is that not pink?"This is a feminist notion; if it weren't for women, churches would shut down or the world in general would fall apart. Women do most of the work and have saved the day.
The "bride of Christ" refers to the body of believers, which is the church. The church is not supposed to be "pink" and in turn, women only, just because it is symbolized as a bride. The assumption comes in again that only women can be believers due to their alleged more spiritual nature. Therefore, the church being referred to as a bride, gets women all giddy and empowers the idea that women are more spiritual and should rule the churches. Women would love to think that Christ chose just them to be his bride, and not men. That would make them feel like princess brides who are above associating with the common human man."The truth is that most men are not interested in going to church. Once upon a time there was social pressure that caused them to attend church. That has disappeared. Most men do not want to give up their Sunday mornings. They'd rather golf on Sundays or sleep in. Besides, they think church is for women. In spite of this lack of interest of the part of most men, Jesus is true to his promise. He lovingly provides for his bride the church through mostly women. You should thank God."Men are not interested in going to church because they are nagged to death about going. When a man has to be dragged into church, it is not by the Lord's calling, but the wife's forcing. Sometimes he is just there to please her and to paint the picture of a perfect Christian family. Once he has been forced into church by the wife, he will start to fall under her spiritual authority and look to her for direction in spiritual matters. My traditional readers know this is not the order God intended. Once there, the wife has him where she wants him and she can start to lead or manipulate him in other ways as well. A man has got to come to Faith and church by the calling of the Lord, not by the calling of the wife.
Plus, just going to church does not automatically make one spiritual and one's church attendance should not be used as a measuring stick as to whether or not one is saved or not. Salvation is by grace and through faith, not by grace and through church. Church is a great supplement for your spiritual life. It builds up, encourages, and supports one's faith, but it is just that--a supplement. It is the potatoes to the meat.
Men did not go to church simply because of social pressure. They go because they are just as spiritual as women. If anything, the reason they aren't going now is because of wife pressure. The constant nagging makes anyone not want to do something. Plus, the "pinkness" of church is an issue. If women really wanted men to be involved in church, why can't they be more sensitive to their needs and welcome them in, instead of nagging them in.
Now, what is the woman to do who wants to go to church, but her husband does not? Wants the husband to lead in spiritual matters, but he does not? I am not clear on this yet and will defer this to my male readers for advice. All I know is that nagging is NOT the answer. I feel the best thing to do is to continue to be a good help meet by revering and respecting your husband; including, respecting his wishes to not go to church.
Further implied in this comment is the stereotype that men are a bunch of lazy bums who just want to sleep in and watch the game. Men can't possibly care about anything deeper than that. We have seen this before.
In summary, this cultural meme that women are more spiritual is feminist driven. It is a power tool meant to shame men into submission. The men are supposed to cave and accept that her 'feelings' must know God better. Men--do not fall for this.