This image is making it's way around the blogs and just like others, I have to comment.
It's part of a campaign to engage boys/men in the fight against domestic violence."As a father, coach, mentor or a male friend, men have the opportunity – and responsibility – to teach boys to respect girls and women. They’re watching; they’re waiting; they’ll listen."That is all very nice, but a few things need to be pointed out:
1. There is this assumption that respect is something women are entitled to by simply being a woman. They don't have to earn it through good behavior or by being a lady. Men are to respect women no matter what. If one wants to use such a blanket definition, then men too should be respected no matter what. Men should be respected when they behave badly and when they don't act like gentlemen. But of course, we all know that will never happen, because a man "has to earn a woman's respect"; we hear that often enough, but women never have to earn a man's respect.
Plus, if we are applying respect equally, who is out there teaching girls/women to respect boys/men? Insert crickets playing here......
2. Imagine the same image with a girl wearing a shirt that said, "awaiting instructions" and on the side there was a list that said:
- Be a good wife
- Stay at home with your children
- Cook me dinner
- Respect menWe all know this would be an outrage! It would be deemed sexist and oppressive amongst many other things. Yet here we are telling men that it is OK for them to take orders/instructions from women. "But, but, but, that's because men gave women instructions for hundreds of years. It's our turn now to for men to take instruction from us". Will that ever get old? How long do women have to be 'free', before things become truly equal; with the same definition of respect applied to men as it is for women. This shows that its not about applying standards equally, but about women having 'power'. If it's about equality, women, then stop the "men did it first game", and if someone were to create a similar "Respect Men" image, let them have their say.3. Why exactly do we think boys/men are watching, waiting, and listening? I guess because they should have it drilled into them by now that women rule them. I think that assumption says a lot about the social conditioning our boys/men have been through. Such socially conditioned boys and men will now blindly follow any feminist or progressive cause.
On a related note, we know that if girls/women were told to respect men, they would NOT be watching, waiting, and listening, because that too has been drilled into them. "Don't watch, wait, or listen for men to do or tell you anything."
H/T: Rex Patriarch